You find yourself sitting alone, still feeling shocked that the love of your life has walked out and your relationship is over. What happened? How did the woman you wanted to spend the rest of your life with walk out and leave you?
You are heartbroken and don't want to do anything other than sit there and think about your lost love. You constantly think about what may have gone wrong and if there is anything that you can do to get her back.
Well, one advantage that you have this time of year is that it is almost Valentine’s Day - the day of love! This is the perfect time to win back your ex.
So how do you win her back?
You might only get one good shot at winning your ex back so you don't want to blow it. You really want to think things through clearly and make sure you do it right.
The first thing that you need to do is clear your mind, a walk down the park or something similar can help to clear your thoughts.
Next, you need to sit down and have a really good think about what went wrong. You need to consider things from her point of view to try and gain a better understanding of why she may have left. Was everything perfect and then you had one big fight that ended the relationship? Has the relationship been having problems for some time? You really need to have a long, hard think about everything so you can find where it went wrong.
If you approach your ex and start blaming her for everything, then you won't have much chance of winning her back. You need to be prepared to take responsibility for anything that you might have done wrong. I'm not saying that you should take all the blame just to get her back, but you certainly should take responsibility for any blame that is yours.
A few days before Valentine’s Day you should send her some flowers with just a brief note saying that you miss her and are thinking about her. The next day give her a call and ask her if she would like to go out to dinner on Valentine’s Day. Sending her the flowers the day before will help to smooth things over a little and may increase the chance of her agreeing to go to dinner with you.
When you take her out to dinner on Valentine’s Day try to make it a special and fun evening. Don't go there with the intention to start arguing about what may have happened. Have a nice dinner and keep the conversation light and fun.
At the end of the evening, if you have both enjoyed yourself, then you can ask her if she would like to catch up for coffee the next day to have a chat about your relationship. Let her know that you miss her and would like to try and reconcile the relationship. When she has a chance to see this romantic side of you she will want to hear what you have to say and may also be considering reconciling.
Valentine’s Day really is the most romantic day of the year so this is the perfect opportunity to save a relationship and win back your ex. When you do catch up for coffee to discuss the relationship, remember to be fair and to see things from her point of view. Remember also to take responsibility for anything you may have done and don't blame her for everything.
